When you think about intimacy, what comes to mind? Probably, most of the images and adjectives have to do with some form of touch and movement. Stroking, rubbing, moving….However, touch is just one of your five senses-you have four others. Imagine what your sexual experiences would feel like if you took full advantage of all of your five sense. Well let’s take a few minutes and talk about one of our senses in particular: hearing.
Talking to one another is very important. Ask your partner to tell you, very softly, how your body feels as he or she touches you, how it feels as he or she strokes you. Don't let your partner do all the talking, however. Make sure you share with him or her your own thoughts about your lovemaking. Another option is to tell each other what you're going to do or what you'd like to do. Music is also another special aspect to provoking and maintaining intimacy. The sound of music and how it can take over your mind and body, can truly transcend you to a higher place.
When with your significant other play something erotic and sexy or something you both enjoy listening to. I can't tell you exactly what that is, because it's whatever turns you on. There are variations in everyone’s musical taste. For one person they may want the soulful sounds of Anita Baker. While another person could have their desired level of intimacy ignited by the sounds of Trey Songz. One person may want some Reggae, while another person may want some 90s R&B. You might even consider making a playlist on your smartphone or tablet/Ipad just for lovemaking!
Sexual arousal using five senses includes stimulating your ears. So, stimulate your hearing to make your lovemaking sexier. Whisper in a soft, husky voice, moan, breathe deeply, groan, squeal show your appreciation and excitement through sound. Talk dirty. Share your fantasies or create hot scenarios like sex on a beach or at a party. If that’s not arousing enough, involve other couples or singles in your fantasies while having sex.
While a great deal of sexual attraction may revolve around the visual, evidence suggests sounds are just as important. Voices can communicate a great deal of social and biological information that can either be a turn-on or a turnoff, say researchers led by Susan Hughes, an assistant professor of psychology at Albright College in Reading, Pa.
Hughes and her team studied the behaviors of 45 college students at Albright -- 20 men and 25 women. Seventy-nine percent of the group were white, 12.5% were African-American, 6.3% were Asian, and 2.1% were Hispanic; their average age was 21.6.
The students conducted phone surveys using Skype and their voices were recorded and analyzed. They called and left prepared voice messages while viewing frontal face images obtained from the Internet of fictitious individuals who "received" their messages. The fictitious individuals varied in attractiveness. "We found that both sexes used a lower-pitch voice and showed a higher level of physiological arousal when speaking to a more attractive opposite-sex target," Hughes says in a news release.
Lowering one's voice to indicate attraction may be a learned behavior derived from cultural stereotypes that are perpetuated throughout the media, the researchers say. "When a woman naturally lowers her voice, it may be perceived as her attempt to sound more seductive or attractive, and therefore serves as a signal of her romantic interest," Hughes says.
There is a great deal of evidence suggesting that individuals manipulate their voices when speaking to different people and in different situations. For example, Hughes and her team write in the study that "women's voices sound more competent when speaking to their bosses rather than to their subordinates or peers, whereas men's voices sound more competent when speaking to their peers. Individuals also tend to raise the pitch of their voice when attempting to deceive another person."
A study published in the journal Media Psychology found that when couples listen to music with suggestive lyrics, they find their partner more appealing. “Sexually explicit songs create a sexually-charged environment,” says lead study author Francesca Dillman Carpentier, Ph.D., associate professor of journalism and mass communication at the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill, “and when you listen with someone you’re attracted to, the lyrics make you focus favorably on their physical attributes, enhancing attraction.”
Another important use of your ability to hear is paying attention to the sounds of your partner. If you are paying attention to the sounds they make, you will know what moves work better than others. Feed off of the sounds you hear, instead of waiting for invitations and directions. The time for asking, "How do you like it?" is over and can be a mood breaker…it's time for action. Use your sense of sound, and trust me it’ll never let you down.