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Confidence Is Key

Confidence can be a powerful word. Confidence is a concept that involves not just an emotion but an important facet in individual’s lives. When confidence is present, inside of a person, it exudes from the inside and can be contagious to anyone that may encounter it. Confidence is needed to take a small brick and turn it into a skyscraper. Confidence is needed to turn a store front business into a corporation. Confidence is needed to take a poor law student from Harvard and turn him into the President of the United States.          

It is important for us as people to know that no matter what our goals are, confidence is our key to success. If you have been successful before, know that you will be successful again. Tell yourself, “I have succeeded in my past, and I know I will succeed in my future.” Previous success is a huge component to one’s self-confidence. One of the greatest resources that we can ever have is confidence. With confidence, we know that we can face any situation that comes our way. Without confidence, we will definitely have struggles and hardships. If there is no confidence, anything that comes our way will pose as a threat.           

When we lack in confidence we acquire an increase in fear. Instead of facing something, we run from it, avoid it, and/or just procrastinate. In one’s social life, without confidence it will be in a poor state. We will start to question our desirability and disappear in the background or remain silent when we are in a group setting. Often in a person’s social life, if they have no confidence, they will always have false perceptions when it comes to: missed invitations, missed phone calls or texts, or e-mails not responded to. This will cause a person to create in their mind, the thought that no one wants to include them or no one likes them.         


Confidence is essential to making it in life. It enables us to reach for our goals, try new things, and stand independently. It protects us from stress and equips us to face life's challenges. Confidence comes from believing in you. If you do not believe in yourself, you cannot expect someone else to believe in you.  An individual’s lack of confidence is just as obvious as one who has confidence. Believing means you unconditionally accept that you are both adequate and enticing. Acknowledging you are capable means you are good enough, competent, and able to handle life's situations. Without a shadow of a doubt, confidence is truly the key to success in any endeavor. The size of the endeavor is irrelevant

Marci Fox, a licensed therapist and motivational speaker, says: Believing you are capable and desirable, you are now free to face life's stresses calm and confident. It means whatever the task, no matter how overwhelming, large or small, you will handle it and whatever the social situation, no matter how positive, negative or neutral, you will know nothing can negate that you are a desirable person. Confident people inspire confidence in others: their audience, their peers, their bosses, their customers, and their friends. And gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways in which a self-confident person finds success. The good news is that self-confidence really can be learned and built on.

Your level of self-confidence can show in many ways: your behavior, your body language, how you speak, what you say, and so on. Look at the following comparisons of common confident behavior with behavior associated with low self-confidence. We gain a sense of self-efficacy when we see ourselves (and others like ourselves) mastering skills and achieving goals that matter in those skill areas. This is the confidence that, if we learn and work hard in a area, we'll succeed; and it's this type of confidence that leads people to accept difficult challenges, and persist in the face of setbacks. The good news is that becoming more confident is readily achievable, just if you have the focus and determination to carry things through. What’s even better is that the things you’ll do to build your self-confidence will also build success.

Confidence is not something that can be learned like a set of rules; confidence is a state of mind. Positive thinking, practice, training, knowledge and talking to other people are all useful ways to help improve or boost your confidence levels. Confidence comes from feelings of well-being, acceptance of your body and mind (self-esteem) and belief in your own ability, skills and experience. Low-confidence can be a result of many factors including: fear of the unknown, criticism, being unhappy with personal appearance (self-esteem), feeling unprepared, poor time-management, lack of knowledge and previous failures. Confidence is not a static measure, our confidence to perform roles and tasks can increase and decrease; some days we may feel more confident than others.

Confidence and self-esteem are not the same thing, although they are often linked. Confidence is the term we use to describe how we feel about our ability to perform roles, functions, and tasks. Self- esteem is how we feel about ourselves, the way we look, the way we think….whether or not we feel worth or valued. People with low self-esteem often also suffer from generally low confidence, but people with good self-esteem can also have low confidence. It is also perfectly possible for people with low self-esteem to be very confident in some areas. Knowing what to expect and how and why things are done will add to your awareness and usually make you feel more prepared and ultimately more confident. Learning and gaining knowledge can sometimes make us feel less confident about our abilities to perform roles and tasks, when this happens we need to combine our knowledge with experience.

Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” ~Norman Vincent Peale

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