Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting them back together. Letting go has been a problem, common among all ages, from all walks of life, may it be letting go of a love, a job, a thing or whatever that you are so attached to. Sometimes people think that it can be done with one night’s sleep, and immediately the feeling of attachment will be gone and eventually you will let go. No matter who we are in life, or what position we hold, it will come to a point that we will have to learn to let go, let go of something important to us.
There is no device or a quick-fix method to make this feeling go away instantly, to drive away months or years of attachment. Some people even take a lot of time to let something go and move on with their lives. Worst is that some fail to let go and never move on with their life. The hardest thing to let go is someone you have loved so much, someone with whom you have shared much of your life and you always thought he or she would be forever there. Once you build this attachment, it is like a habit to you. How your day will be is dependent on how your relationship is going to be with that other person for that day. It is an investment to put your heart completely to another person that when it fails, we go into emptiness.
Researchers believe that that if you hold on to negative feelings, sad emotions, or depressing memories there is a possibility that you could reshape the human cell to the point where your thoughts of the past have a negative effect on your cells and your physical health. Love, in the dictionary it says that it means "a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person". I don’t necessarily agree with this definition. Love is the unconditional feeling for someone or something. You don't choose to feel or for who you feel it. You just, feel it. But loving is not the problem. Forgetting love, letting go is the problem. But, how do you do it? You can just try to not think about what you are trying to forget, but this doesn't work as the harder you try to forget someone the most you think about him/her.
Throughout our lives we go through different experiences, some are positive and some we see as negative and unpleasant. When you hang on to a negative or unpleasant experience you are constantly thinking about it. And when you constantly think about that negative event you prevent yourself from healing. How many pleasant memories do you recall every day? Chances are you're like most people and you have a number of unpleasant experiences that you're holding on to, which is preventing you from moving forward.
The more you carry, the worse life gets. Why? Because you've filled your mind up with negative experiences, because you continually hang on to something that doesn't allow you to move forward. In short, you're carrying useless baggage that's really slowing you down. Think of it this way: you're on a hiking trip and along the way you keep picking up heavy objects, things that really don't serve you. After a while, these objects begin to slow you down and unless you get rid of them, you'll never complete your trip.
To let go you have to get your mind to focus on different goals and different objectives. It's not about saying: I let go of the pain from my experience with _____ and moved on. That will help. If you really want to start moving on, then you have to get your mind to focus on new things. In the process you automatically let go of the things that have been slowing you down.
Begin focusing on what you want next. Focus on what is important and what can improve your life. This is a simple process that gets the mind moving in a new direction and you stop building negative energy created from the negative events/emotions, which only attracts more negative situations. When you begin focusing on more positive things you begin attracting positive situations. The key to your success is to train your mind to move in a new direction so you send new messages to your subconscious mind, which then brings you the opportunities to move forward.
Live in the present moment, start living in the now. Living in the now is different than living for the moment. Living in the now is the process of enjoying everything that is going on at this present moment. Take a look around you and appreciate those things that you once thought were trivial. When you are here now you can be nowhere else. You are not hanging on to something, you are here now. This forces your mind to look at things differently and tells your subconscious mind that you're ready for new possibilities, then you’ll begin to let go and move forward.